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Module 3.3 - Offensively Living in Offense

Think of the last time you had to be in the room with someone who had offended you. How did that feel? Is there any way you could have acted differently to change the interaction? Use your Core Journal to think about anyone with whom you are carrying an offense. Is there an opportunity to process that offense through with that person? If not, write a letter to that person telling them how you feel and what you’d like to have happen in the future. You can destroy that letter if you like or save it in your Core Journal. Think about what would it feel like to no longer have to carry this judgment about this person?

Name: Micah Ruiz Esparza

My body goes into defense mode. If I had hair on my back, then I would probably feel it rising. There is a feeling deep in me that wants to defend myself and sometimes that feeling can get too strong and want more than just defense but go back on the offense. Ways to handle it better would involve regulating and paying attention to my own emotions. Being brave enough to express how that interaction made me feel so we can work together toward a healthy relationship with healthy communication. This would be better than just letting insults fly or getting heated without expressing why.

Yes, my little brother is someone who has recently offended me and that conflict has not been resolved. I would like to say I have let it go but I have not. eventually I will need to go to him and tell him what he did and how he should have really thought more before he revealed my entire life to my parents without asking me. My first reaction was to brush it off as if it didn't matter. The deed was done, and I couldn't change that. But later I was able to process it more, and anger began to well in me. I was angry because the weight of what he did was significant and didn't even think to ask me. His excuses were pretty terrible and dismissive which made me even more angry. As I've processed, I see that he probably did think he was doing what was best for me. But that itself is a savior complex thinking he knows better what I need than I do without even asking.

My dream for the future is just a sense of respect for who I am and what I believe. Right now he has little to none. I try to have understanding because everything he has said is something I would have said a few years ago. I know what it's like in his shoes. I think I would feel more free if I was able to fully let this go but I think some conversations need to be had to give it some closure. Right now, I don't even think he knows the extent of what he did. It's not something I think about often but it does affect our relationship now.

Think of the last time you had to be in the room with someone who had offended you. How did that feel? Is there any way you could have acted differently to change the interaction? Use your Core Journal to think about anyone with whom you are carrying an offense. Is there an opportunity to process that offense through with that person? If not, write a letter to that person telling them how you feel and what you’d like to have happen in the future. You can destroy that letter if you like or save it in your Core Journal. Think about what would it feel like to no longer have to carry this judgment about this person?

Name: inpower testing

testing journal for module 3 pt 3 @12:58

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