Module 1.1 – All

Module 1.1 - IDENTITY - Who Am I? How to Live Knowing I Matter

Remember a time when you were given praise that made you feel good about yourself. Was that word of encouragement a truth about who you are? How does hearing good things about you impact your self-worth. Are encouraging words important to you? Not everyone feels valued the same way, so it’s OK if your answer is that those words don’t mean as much to you as others.

Name: Ashley Ruiz

It took a few days of saying my I am statements for me to start believing they may actually be true but once I got to that point it felt powerful to say them. I am now at a place where I believe that I am those statements and I understand that in order for others to believe these things about me I have to believe them first.

Remember a time when you were given praise that made you feel good about yourself. Was that word of encouragement a truth about who you are? How does hearing good things about you impact your self-worth. Are encouraging words important to you? Not everyone feels valued the same way, so it’s OK if your answer is that those words don’t mean as much to you as others.

Name: Richard Peralta

Reflecting on the words that were spoken is more challenging than conjuring up other memories. WORDS can cut pretty deeply and those surface wounds may heal over time, or perhaps just get covered up and suppressed deeper down in the subconscious mind for the sake of survival or just carrying on. Growing up I had several different instances throughout childhood with different kids at different schools or encounters, whether in preschool, kindergarten and all the way up through grade school where the word DIFFERENT was used to describe me in some form or another. Whether it was the DIFFERENT way I talked or the DIFFERENT way I dressed, or a girl on the bus talking about my DIFFERENT eyelashes and how I could possibly see anything through such long eyelashes. Or the BOYS at my predominantly white Catholic school teasing me for looking DIFFERENT and being DARKER than anyone else. But as hurtful and sticky as some of those words from others may have been, I know it was the words spoken by my own family that hurt the most, like my older sister calling me being STUPID or my father expressing how much of a DISAPPOINTMENT I was. Looking back, I think, perhaps they were merely expressing that what I did was stupid or disappointing, it really doesn't matter as the way it has stuck with me over time has been so damaging. Alright, that's about as much reflection as I can handle on that subject for the moment...

As for reflections and suggestions for I AM statements that were particularly resonating from friends and colleagues: I Am EXTRA; I AM an ENTHUSIASTIC ACTIVATOR of OTHERS; I AM PASSIONATE and CARING; I AM THOUGHTFUL and CONSIDERATE; I AM STRATEGIC, DELIBERATE and INTENTIONAL; I AM CONSTANTLY SEEKING NEW INPUT, INFORMATION or KNOWLEDGE; I AM INTELLECTUAL; I AM A POWERFUL FORCE for GOOD; I AM A GOOD FATHER and HUSBAND to name a few characteristics or traits that resonated with me and I enjoyed hearing and speaking with others.

Remember a time when you were given praise that made you feel good about yourself. Was that word of encouragement a truth about who you are? How does hearing good things about you impact your self-worth. Are encouraging words important to you? Not everyone feels valued the same way, so it’s OK if your answer is that those words don’t mean as much to you as others.

Name: Sheri Pullium

I AM a person who looks for opportunities to show others compassion and encouragement.
I AM healthy physically, mentally, spiritually. I consistently strive to find habits that will improve my well being.
I AM a woman whose spouse, children, parents, siblings know I unconditionally love them and are always safe with me.
I AM an authentic administrator of critical thinking, resources, & open mindedness that promotes success in my professional and personal relationships and any challenges I encounter.
Some of these I feel that I already am but could put in more effort to be better. Some I have not put effort into hardly at all but I want that in my future.

Remember a time when you were given praise that made you feel good about yourself. Was that word of encouragement a truth about who you are? How does hearing good things about you impact your self-worth. Are encouraging words important to you? Not everyone feels valued the same way, so it’s OK if your answer is that those words don’t mean as much to you as others.

Name: Jacqui Glasener

I am a positive person who enjoys living life each day.
I am a healthy person, who cares for my body through sleep, hydration, food, fitness and mindset.
I am a good mother, who loves my two sons unconditionally.
I am a good friend who finds joy in the happiness and success of my friends and colleagues.
I am a person who speaks the truth and for whom honesty is paramount.
I am a person who has a very strong work ethic and my integrity is my moral compass.
I am a leader who celebrates my team members wins and supports and backs them in their challenges.

Remember a time when you were given praise that made you feel good about yourself. Was that word of encouragement a truth about who you are? How does hearing good things about you impact your self-worth. Are encouraging words important to you? Not everyone feels valued the same way, so it’s OK if your answer is that those words don’t mean as much to you as others.

Name: Haley White

I've always felt like the black sheep of my family. My mother was very clear that she wanted straight, Christian, Republican, future lawyer or doctor-type daughters who would marry young and give her grandchildren so that we could all appear like happy well-adjusted middle-class people to the people in our hometown who she hated and judged, yet needed constant approval from.

I was none of those things, nor my sister. From a very young age I knew I was different. I asked our preacher too many questions. I questioned mom's parenting skills when it seemed like she was saying no just to say no. I got caught giving a girl a hickey in fourth grade.I was tall and curvy, a full C cup in 5th grade. Mom used to skip meals if a hair brush couldn't pass between her thighs while sitting down.

Shame has been my driving identifier for most of my life. I was never what my parents wanted. My friend Brooke jokes that her mom didn't love her. I always say "My parents didn't SEE me". It always felt like they wanted me to take up less space, figuratively and literally.

I've grown up doubting my own inherent worthiness on many fronts- from my lack of "goodness" to my intelligence ("She's still young and stupid," I remember my mom telling a friend once when I was excitedly talking about a progressive social justice cause I was involved with in undergrad). From my body size to my body's desires. There is an bullying voice in my head Brooke calls "Barb". She tells me I'm lazy, fat, ugly, worthless, stupid, unlovable and most cruelly...bad.

I AM WORTHY is the primary I AM statement I need to remind myself of every day. Especially with the clarification that I am Worthy AS IS. I don't need to diet or get another degree or work harder or move somewhere more exciting or get a partner or have kids or accomplish any other goal I think will somehow make me more loveable. I am worthy, period.

The others, I will work on. Definitely been pushing this assignment away because it is bring up a lot of 'stuff'.

Remember a time when you were given praise that made you feel good about yourself. Was that word of encouragement a truth about who you are? How does hearing good things about you impact your self-worth. Are encouraging words important to you? Not everyone feels valued the same way, so it’s OK if your answer is that those words don’t mean as much to you as others.

Name: Oscar Rodriguez

I am : I have always had a negative out look of who I am I have always had a problem with following threw cause I always had the negative core identity. When I was young I had goals of becoming a leader ,it may have been of a Gang or a group or a crew but as I grew and became more aware of the purpose of my life God gave me the opportunity to share his love to the broken feed the Hungry and be a example to the young life’s in my community .I am a community leader a Community Pastor and a CEO of a nonprofit called Martinpark I may not be as equipped or schooled as some but even through my struggles my focus is to repair myself and to continue making myself available. I am not a failure ,I am not disappointed, I am not worthless. My pass core was mislead as a child and has taken more then I could ever understand . So as I work with helping myself understand and rebuild I want to be able to repair and work on my own home and give what I learn to my family and loved ones and community.

Remember a time when you were given praise that made you feel good about yourself. Was that word of encouragement a truth about who you are? How does hearing good things about you impact your self-worth. Are encouraging words important to you? Not everyone feels valued the same way, so it’s OK if your answer is that those words don’t mean as much to you as others.

Name: Oscar Rodriguez

I am ,I have always struggle with finding a way to Describe

Remember a time when you were given praise that made you feel good about yourself. Was that word of encouragement a truth about who you are? How does hearing good things about you impact your self-worth. Are encouraging words important to you? Not everyone feels valued the same way, so it’s OK if your answer is that those words don’t mean as much to you as others.

Name: Hannah Bernard

I AM resilient. No matter what I have gone through I have had a 100% survival rate.
I AM strong. Every day I wake up and, even at my lowest, am able to pull through the day until night comes back around.
I AM kind. I go out of my way to make others feel welcomed and heard when they are in my presence.
I AM understanding and compassionate. I try to be empathetic and considerate to every person I meet. You never know someone else's battle and what might not hurt you might hurt someone else. It's important to realize and validate others pain.
I AM a good friend, girlfriend, sister and daughter. Though I like my own time, I try and keep others needs and wants close to the forefront of my brain so I can establish a stronger relationship with those who are important to me.
I AM genuine. What I do and who I am are authentically me and no one can tell me otherwise
I AM beautiful. Pictures of other women and a number on a scale does not define my worth. My body is valid and beautiful. It is healthy and gets me where I need to be, which is a beautiful thing.
I AM smart. Someone else's accomplishments and knowledge does not take away from where I am today and my own educational experience.
I AM hardworking. I push myself everyday to the capacity I can, which I believe is the definition of hardworking.

I WILL to become more confident in myself and who I am. I must show up and understand who I am or else I can't expect anyone else to.
I WILL become better at setting boundaries with those around me. Though this idea stresses me out I must get better at setting a boundary when need be, for my own sanity.
I WILL become more compassionate to myself. How can I continue to offer others compassion when I don't give it to myself every day.

Remember a time when you were given praise that made you feel good about yourself. Was that word of encouragement a truth about who you are? How does hearing good things about you impact your self-worth. Are encouraging words important to you? Not everyone feels valued the same way, so it’s OK if your answer is that those words don’t mean as much to you as others.

Name: Coreen Campos

I have jotted down some I am statements in my Bossed Up Life Planner, these relate to affirmative mind treatments and affirmative prayer--I love it!

I am patient, healthy, balanced, joyful, disciplined, love, ambitious and that's a beautiful thing (I can be ambitious and a good mother and wife, investing time with family), and I'm improving my organizational skills.

Remember a time when you were given praise that made you feel good about yourself. Was that word of encouragement a truth about who you are? How does hearing good things about you impact your self-worth. Are encouraging words important to you? Not everyone feels valued the same way, so it’s OK if your answer is that those words don’t mean as much to you as others.

Name: Lindsay Booker

As a child I was told I was smart but lazy and didn't apply myself. As a teenager I was told I was selfish, a master manipulator (and much worse).

I am strong and brave and can overcome adversity.
I am a compassionate person who extends grace to others and myself.
I am a loving wife and mother who always does her best.
I am an advocate for the marginalized and oppressed.
I am a visionary and creator.
I am successful business owner.
I am an encouraging boss who leads others in a way that allows them to reach their full potential.
I am transparent and honest with others when I am disappointed and angry.
I am a soul having a temporary physical experience and I will leave the world better than I found it.

Remember a time when you were given praise that made you feel good about yourself. Was that word of encouragement a truth about who you are? How does hearing good things about you impact your self-worth. Are encouraging words important to you? Not everyone feels valued the same way, so it’s OK if your answer is that those words don’t mean as much to you as others.

Name: paul

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